Saturday, October 6, 2012

Me, Me, Me!

Saturday afternoon and I'm still in comfy PJ bottoms. I'm pretty okay with this. I'm having an off week of trying to reevaluate choices, and what's okay, what's not okay, if I'm doing it all the right way. Then, I start to understand there is no right way... and along with that logic, there's absolutely no reason to waste time worrying about it.

I found a little happy spot on the web called Tiny Buddha. There is not one bad post there. The Buddhist way isn't something I practice the way I feel I should, however it is the only way that has made me feel at ease when I'm trying to find peace in my life. The writers over at Tiny Buddha make understanding life just a little easier. There was a post on not worrying about what's going to happen, as the stress is just unreasonable. To live in the now, because it just makes sense... and to stop with the excuses, because nothing is guaranteed. The writer pointed fingers at all who was reading, telling us to admit that we make excuses for almost anything we have or haven't done, even point fingers to someone else. I'm not sure if I actively point fingers to others, but I do know that I definitely make excuses. Why didn't I get to this today, why didn't we do this today, why didn't I do what I wanted to do, etc... it's all so silly... because I can't come up with a good reason now... however, in the moment I had a reason to not do something, or to do something that was a little selfish.

As I mentioned before, I don't find any real peace with the classic Christianity or bible or god. However, I find peace in the Buddhist ways. A part from that, I found myself in a spot online where someone had mentioned that someone's post had 32 "Me", "I" "self" statements. My eyes became big. She's right. This post wasn't mine, but I can see how it's so easy to feel a moment of despair and only see us, our side, and why it's all on us, and our feelings etc. The number one thing to remember is happiness is the epitome of doing and living peacefully. Sometimes this means putting our fears and our sadness aside, and focusing on the here and now and doing things today and in the moment, for others, for family, for loves, for friends, etc. In the end, it all just kind of works out. For years I worked to believe in the philosophy that if I did things to help others daily, things that I wouldn't necessarily want to do, that good things will appear before me. I don't know if this was a way for me to understand that if I don't do anything good, I don't deserve good things to happen... but I know it was a way for me and my mind to do things that I wanted to do for others, and understand that it will be okay that I put myself on the back burner.

As a mother, and a significant other, I probably put my "wants" on the back for awhile or maybe never get to them. Though, I find pleasure in doing things that don't necessarily benefit me in any way. In an odd way, that benefits me.

So mommy's... how do you cope? What are your mechanisms? How do you know that in a time of need or a time of despair, things will definitely turn around and be okay? What about when money is low, or when you aren't working, or bills aren't getting paid? What about when you can't exactly do what you believe is necessary? How do you get through it?

Saturday, September 22, 2012

Time Management, Sticky Notes, Reminders, To Do Lists... Oh my!

It was seven thirty a.m. "Monkey Bread, Laundry, Groceries, Dishes, Homework..." My "To-Do" list goes on. It should include a shower in there for me, and perhaps maybe some time to dance and be silly with the kiddos. However, now I look at the clock and E has already decided that she wants to be boss of the household, and L has decided he wants to be needy and how dare I want to do the laundry, especially alone.

I feel like I rely heavily on E to help maintain L's happiness when I need to do something that can't be guided by the excitement of a 14 month old. Maybe that's wrong... I don't depend on E too much to the point I know that it's unnecessary, but tell me, how on earth do I load the laundry, take a shower, and keep the wee one's out of trouble? I'm sure there is a system, and a time management guru out there that tells me that I simply don't plan my day and I don't stick to it. Shhh! Who does? Oh... you? *sheepish grin*

I thought I'd pop on here real quick to get a few ideas. How do you keep it together Saturday mornings? How do you make sure the house looks like it gets cleaned every once in awhile without losing your head about picking up those blocks *again*. How do you make sure that you look put together when you leave the house for the day with 2-3 kiddos in tow? Or do you just leave without make up, a stained shirt and sweats?

Would love to hear some ideas about how you keep it all together, or at least make it look that way. :) I'll repost some of your guys' answers to hopefully give other reader's an insight!

Friday, September 21, 2012

The obligatory "Hi!" post!

As a full time mother of two and one on the way, a full time student, and picking up work whenever I can, I find that it's rare to gain any "me" time. I knew with the entrance of kiddos coming into my life that my time for me would dwindle to possibly just the minutes I take in the shower. That's okay, though!

We have this lovely thing called the internet. I wanted to gather things, crafts, ideas, etc, that I plan to follow through on and can utilize in my role as a mother, a student, or just generally a girl, a woman in the world. I plan to put it all here, review it, and hopefully give others an idea or a place to come to and to put their thoughts here. I look forward to working with and finding other mothers in the world.

A short ditty about me: My live in an apartment home in the city of Omaha. I have a seven year old daughter who attends an art school, and a 14 month old little boy who attends daycare while I go to school full time Monday-Wednesday. There's another little bundle of joy appearing in early February. I'm guilty of spending little time in the kitchen, too much time with the laundry, and a lot of time looking for fun things to do.

I've blogged since I was about 11, and can probably find livejournal links, angelfire links, and a lot of different posts about the relationships I went through, the troubles I faced, and the woe is me thoughts I had at that time. Thankfully I've come to a point that I want my little part of the blogosphere to be drama free, full of life, color and vibrance. I'll leave my dirty shoes at the door.

I welcome all women, mothers or not, to join my in my conversations with food ideas, mothering ideas, parenting ideas, homemade crafts, diy fix-its, etc. Contribute what you can and I will definitely post what I can!

Here's to a good relationship, you and me.